I’m now on my second day of my new direction as a person. I had a really great night visiting with old friends. It was nice to shelve this for a few hours. Today is a new day. I attended a CODA (Co-Dependents Anonymous) meeting with my mom just to observe and get some exposure into some of other people’s struggles.
While I’m not a big support group junkie, a lot of the stories and people’s struggles touched a LOT of the things I’m going through and things that existed unhealthily in our marriage for so long. I’m glad I went. It was definitely refreshing to see other people going through very similar life struggles and it brought levity to the situation….I’M NOT ALONE IN THIS. 
Family
Nothing replaces family. A couple of my cousins are coming over shortly that I’m really close to. I had let them know what’s going on with me adn this situation and they dropped everything to come over and see me and hear me and support me through it. It’s nice to have extended family that have been through their own shit and are there for you no matter what you go through. I feel truly blessed and can’t wait to see them. My grandparents will probably stop by tomorrow as well to discuss it. I’m curious to get their perspective as they both have been through a lot, remarried, had a bunch of kids, etc. I have a lot of faith and respect in my elders. They know our family, they created our family, and have so much profound information to offer the situation.
New Relationship
I’m now working on my new relationship with the wife…one that is about the kids and individual happiness. Our communication is now clear, on the same page with priorities, etc. and very amicable. We have our first “business meeting” to discuss the plans moving forward, the logistics, the finances, etc.
One day at a time……whew…..
